How much 1o months can bring change to a child's life! Aimee has been transformed from a scared, tiny little four year old girl -- who didn't want to go with mom and dad --- into a healthy, strong, muscular and feisty 5 year old girl who speaks great English already.
We have had some bumps in the road. She has been going through a phase when she is throwing some very big screaming fits when she wasn't getting her way. Many adoption books suggest a very mild, non - confrontational style of dealing with this situations. But ultimately, she is going to have to do as we ask --- put up her coat, not hit her brother, etc... just like the other kids. We give time-outs on the kitchen floor - and sometimes someone has to go to bed early. Really, what it comes down to is that she has been testing us. Testing us to see if we really love her even when she is being hateful and mean. We always tell her we are together forever - until she is grown up and that we love her very much - even when she is sassy and difficult. It is interesting that this phase in her development didn't come out until she had been home with us for 8 months. That tells us for sure that she is loving us, and it is making her uncomfortable in her subconscious....since all love in her life prior to us has been taken from her. Can you imagine how hard it is for her to build this new trust? The good thing is that when we are apart she misses mommy and she is excited to see me again, even if we have only been apart for a few hours.
We are very blessed to have Aimee as our daughter. We cannot imagine our life without her. And just think -- it all started from one little photo oh Rainbow Kids:)
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